Not everyone agrees that convincing our children a huge bunny hides candy eggs once a year is a good thing. Or for that matter, the story of a fat man breaking into our homes to leave presents, or that a fairy comes to collect our teeth in the middle of the night.
I see how it might be damaging to create fantasies for our children only to have them to find out later it was all lies. The people they trust the most, their parents, betraying them for years. But I think they come to terms quickly with the idea that we do it to protect their innocence, grow their imagination, and perhaps foster a belief in things we cannot always see. Or I hope they do because I am so not paying for therapy.
If you decide to always tell the truth to your child then where do you draw the line? At Santa Clause? The Easter Bunny? Or do you take it further? Maybe you should tell them the odds they will become an astronaut or President of the United States are very slim. It’s more likely they will grow up to work long hours for barely above minimum wages at a job they hate for a total asshat of a boss.
But you don’t want to kill all their hopes and dreams, do you? Neither do I, because sometimes those dreams are the only thing that keeps us from plotting the demise of our own bosses.
So I will continue to lie, not just because I’m so good at it…but because I believe it’s the right thing to do.
And my favorite quote on the subject:
“Fairy tales do not tell children the dragons exist. Children already know that dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children the dragons can be killed.”
― G.K. Chesterton
What's your opinion?