After a few sessions with my therapist:
I am ready to descend into Query Hell once more (totally affectionate name because I am actually one of those peeps who gets excited by this process).
There are numerous online resources designed to help you perfect your query from published authors, stellar agents, and experienced bloggers. I'm not one of them. But I do believe I have read Every.Single.One. Not to mention taking a workshop or two.
Here are a few of my favorite MUST READS:
Query Shark-Janet Reid.
Elana Johnson's Free E-Book From the Query to the Call.
Matt McNish's The Quintessentially Questionable Query Experiment
But beware of information overload. This is what happens when you've learned too much on a subject and it spins a tornado of facts in your brain too loud to make any sense (or I suffer from ADHD). The only thing that works for me is to concentrate on the C's of a Query.
Once I have that...I write the whole thing 1st person, in my character's voice while it's still fresh, then let it simmer for a few days. Then I go back, change it to third person, and try not to sound too crazy.
See not so hard...
Have a great weekend!!!